Loving Where They Are

Do to others as you would like them to do to you. Luke 6:31 (NLT)

A while ago I spent the weekend with some folks. We were going to hang out together. So, I planned some activities for us to do. I was super surprised when they weren't appreciative. As a matter of fact, they complained about the stuff we were doing. I got through the weekend and thought "Man, I will never do that again." I was annoyed.

Later in the week I was talking to God about it and asking him to make them more appreciative and thankful. And God revealed something to me that made me have an "AWWWW Come On!" moment. Do you know what that is?  That is when God shows you that your thinking is skewed. And because he does this you have to adjust your mindset and choose a new path. I both love and hate these moments at the same time. OK. I only hate it when I am still really mad about something. Mostly, I am uncomfortable with them. I am uncomfortable with them because God is showing me that my thinking is wrong which means I have to change. I love them because they are so personal to me that I know he is involved with what I'm saying to him and what I am doing. There is nothing better than when God talks to you.

Anyway, as I was walking along and talking to him and asked him to make these people more thankful, he asked me "Did you plan the activities they would like or the activities you would like?" I think I may have stopped walking. I planned stuff I thought they would like but the activities probably leaned more toward what I would like.

That made me think of the book The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman that talks about how we love our spouses (and others) according to our own love language when we should love them according to theirs. For example, if my husband's love language is Words of Affirmation but I keep trying to give him gifts, I am not reaching him where he is. He may not care anything about gifts. So the goal is to learn the love language of the person you are trying to love and love them that way. Then, the bible text "Do unto others as you would like them to do unto you." popped into my head.

I realized that when we love others, we should love them where they are not how we think they should be loved. The two can be so, so different. If someone I know needs a new pair of shoes and I give them a hat, what good is that? Or if it is more meaningful to them to drive around the country but I take them to the city, will that be special to them? I think this loving others where they are thing is hard to do. We naturally migrate toward loving people in the way we are comfortable. Jesus did it really well. He listened to people and saw their hearts and loved them exactly how they needed. He still does. So I guess if we are going to learn to do this, we will have to learn from the Master. Lots of love lessons there......I suppose I have many more "AWWWW Come On!" moments ahead of me.

It [Love] does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking. 1 Corinthians 13:5 (NIV)

The Great Adventure

Around midnight Paul and Silas were praying and singing hymns to God, and the other prisoners were listening. Suddenly, there was a massive earthquake, and the prison was shaken to its foundations. All the doors immediately flew open, and the chains of every prisoner fell off! The jailer woke up to see the prison doors wide open. He assumed the prisoners had escaped, so he drew his sword to kill himself. But Paul shouted to him, “Stop! Don’t kill yourself! We are all here!” Acts 16:25-28 (NLT)

Paul and Silas were in prison, shackled with huge ankle chains. They had just been severely beaten. There are a couple of things that made me say "What?" as I read this. The first amazing thing was they were praying and singing. So I can kind of get that. You are in prison, shackled; it is conceivable that as a Christian you would go to God. What I find completely astounding is what happened after the earthquake. They stayed put! Here you are, singing and praying - I'm assuming they would be praying for their release right? There is an earthquake so violent the doors fly open and the shackles break free from your ankles. Wouldn't you see that as a sign from God that you should get out of there? I would think "Look! God answered our prayers. Let's go." But they didn't.

The next verse says that after the jailer realized they were still there he said "Tell me about this God you serve." I am sure he was thinking "You are different because of him." And he'd be right. What would motivate two men to risk death or at a minimum another beating just to save this man? Paul talks about it throughout the New Testament.

Paul met Jesus, he was convicted that he was the Messiah and he knew he was called to participate in this Great Adventure. In 2 Corinthians 5 he explains some things that give us a clue as to his mindset. In 2 Corinthian 5:13 he says "I know we may seem crazy but it is for God's glory." He knows that the things he does sounds nuts - like staying in a prison when you should be running - but he is living out his passion. He also says that since Jesus died for everyone and people who say yest to that invitation no longer live for themselves. Instead they live for Christ. And everyone is so important that we stop looking at each other from a human perspective but see people from a God perspective. (vs 15-16) He goes on to say that now our job is to show people who Jesus was and to reintroduce them to God. We are God's ambassadors. We are here to help people grow in their relationship with God. (v 18-20)

Paul very clearly knew what his mission in life was. It is the same mission we all share. Once we have accepted Jesus as our Savior, our calling is to share Jesus and love others so passionately that we will even be willing to sacrifice ourselves for it. I know that last statement ruffles some feathers. It is not our nature to put ourselves last and others first. But God says we should and Jesus did. It takes a relationship to be able to get there. The Great Adventure we are called to is not normal. It is not logical. But it is the Adventure of a lifetime. Nothing else will compare. And as Paul says "We may seem crazy but it is for God's glory." Let the Adventure begin!

An Unlikely Comfort Zone

You, Lord, are all I have, and you give me all I need; my future is in your hands. How wonderful are your gifts to me; how good they are! I praise the Lord, because he guides me, and in the night my conscience warns me. I am always aware of the Lord's presence; he is near and nothing can shake me. Psalm 16:5-8 (GNT)

Recently, a friend and I were sharing about how chaotic life has become. I realized in talking to her how much I have changed. I used to be a planner. Now, don't get me wrong, I still plan but I used to plan everything. I was proud of the fact that I was super organized and that I could get a lot of stuff done because of it. This was my comfort zone. Everything was organized and everything went as planned (mostly).

Fast forward a few years. My life has taken twists and turns that have been unforeseeable and totally out of my control. You can obviously tell in the paragraph above that control was important to me and it was kept me comfortable. So you can also imagine how hard this was to deal with.

Have you ever been in this place? You want to control something but you can't so you pick something super ridiculous and hold fast. This happened to me when my husband brought home a new frying pan and I had a mini-fit. I am not proud of this and when I shared the story with my friend, she laughed and summed it up correctly when she said, "Elaine, that is just wrong." Thank God for good friends who can laugh with you at your ridiculous moments. I realized after my mini-fit that I wasn't really mad about the frying pan, I was still trying to hold on to some semblance of control. I went to my knees.

God has since been working on my heart. He is teaching me that the only person really in control is him. I am not in control and never will be. He is teaching me to have a new comfort zone. It has nothing to do with planning or controlling. It has everything to do with trust. Because I am learning to trust him, I can face a totally out-of-control, uncomfortable situation and go to my comfort zone. I talk to God, read my Bible and turn it over.  I am learning to relax in his presence and in the knowledge that everything is under control.....just not my control. I am learning to love my new comfort zone.  Instead of figuring out how to make it work the way I want, I can look to see how God is working it out.

I am still a work in progress but thank God, he's not finished with me yet!

Minute In It - Love Differently

I heard the words of a new song by Reba McEntire called "Back to God." One of the lines stood out to me. The line said "We can't love like this."

Today's Minute In It talks about how we are supposed to treat each other. Read through it and then answer the questions at the bottom.

Don’t just pretend to love others. Really love them. Hate what is wrong. Hold tightly to what is good. Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other. Never be lazy, but work hard and serve the Lord enthusiastically. Rejoice in our confident hope. Be patient in trouble, and keep on praying. When God’s people are in need, be ready to help them. Always be eager to practice hospitality.

Bless those who persecute you. Don’t curse them; pray that God will bless them. Be happy with those who are happy, and weep with those who weep. Live in harmony with each other. Don’t be too proud to enjoy the company of ordinary people. And don’t think you know it all!

Never pay back evil with more evil. Do things in such a way that everyone can see you are honorable. Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone. Romans 12:9-18 (NLT)

• What does it look like to pretend to love others? Do you think that you have to fake it til you make it when it comes to loving difficult people?
• What would really loving them instead look like?
• How much do I cherish what is good versus what is evil?
• What does it look like to honor someone?
• How would I go about honoring someone I love? How would I go about honoring someone I don't particularly like?
• Do I pray for the people who persecute me?
• Do I live my life reflecting Jesus no matter what my personal opinion?

What questions does this text make you think of?

Inside-Outside-Upside-Down

“You’re blessed when you’re at the end of your rope. With less of you there is more of God and his rule.
“You’re blessed when you feel you’ve lost what is most dear to you. Only then can you be embraced by the One most dear to you.
“You’re blessed when you’re content with just who you are—no more, no less. That’s the moment you find yourselves proud owners of everything that can’t be bought.
“You’re blessed when you’ve worked up a good appetite for God. He’s food and drink in the best meal you’ll ever eat.
“You’re blessed when you care. At the moment of being ‘care-full,’ you find yourselves cared for.
“You’re blessed when you get your inside world—your mind and heart—put right. Then you can see God in the outside world. Matthew 5:3-8 (MSG)

Jesus gave these principles to a crowd of people sitting on the hillside. He was trying to explain how God saw things. This would still apply to us today.

We are so trained to make everything look good on the outside. We want people to see us as successful, financially stable, no problems at all. We only let people see what we want them to see, the good stuff. We hide the problems, the sadness and the messiness of our lives from everyone because we want people to approve of who we are.

But Jesus said in this sermon that all that messiness, all the stuff we are trying to stuff on the inside is the good stuff. It's in that messiness, in that chaos that God works. God doesn't care what we look like on the outside. He wants us to take a good look at what he can see on the inside. That's the good stuff. That is the stuff that will give your life meaning.

So, when you are at the end of your rope, when you feel like you've lost everything, when you just don't care anymore what people think -- then you are blessed. Because it's during the chaotic, messy, down-right scary times in life that God shows up and heals your heart.

Changing Status Quo

As Jesus was walking along, he saw a man named Matthew sitting at his tax collector’s booth. “Follow me and be my disciple,” Jesus said to him. So Matthew got up and followed him. Matthew 9:9 (NLT)

Matthew. A tax collector. He was hated by the people because he worked for Herod and Herod taxed the people heavily. On top of that, it was widely thought that the tax collectors charged more than was needed to skim extra off the top for themselves. Matthew would have been ostracized by his community. He would have been despised.

Somewhere along the way though, he met Jesus. He probably wanted to spend more time with him but anyone would have known that he would not be accepted. He wouldn't pass muster. Look at his career choice and the way he lived his life. Certainly not that of a disciple. So he went back to work and believed that anything more wasn't for him.

Jesus walked by and said "Follow me." Notice, he didn't say follow me and I will provide everything, give you a new career and make sure life goes smoothly. All he said was "Follow me." Matthew then had a choice. He could sit in his tax booth, continue to become more and more wealthy and live life in status quo or he could get up and follow. He chose to get up and follow.

In each of our hearts God puts a longing. He puts a longing for something more, for something better. He doesn't lay out the plan so we will feel safe. As a matter of fact, he usually doesn't share any details. He doesn't promise that everything is going to be fine but he extends the invitation anyway because he knows in the end, it will be perfect.

Matthew needed to choose. He needed to step out of his comfort zone and step into the unknown. He needed to know what he wanted more: status quo or to follow Jesus.

Each of us has to make this choice. Will you or will you not follow Jesus? One will keep you safe and secure; the other will be an unpredictable adventure. One will leave you feeling empty. The other will fill you up in ways you can't even describe. So which is it? Will you say yes to the invitation?

Created To Be......

This weekend I was watching a show about a group of people that rescued wild animals, rehabilitated them and then released them back into the wild. On this particular show, they rescued a bobcat. Cut little thing but he was fierce and he was only 8 weeks old. The commentator said "Even at 8 weeks old, he knows he's a bobcat. There is no doubt in his mind."

A bobcat knows he can climb trees. He knows that he should hunt at dawn and dusk. He knows that he mainly eats rabbits and hares but he can also eat rodents and even adult deer if he gets hungry enough. He can bring down an animal several times his size. He knows where to make his home and he knows how to protect his territory.

Made me think of us. God created us for so many things. What do we know about who we should be? So, I looked it up. Here are some of the things the Bible says we were created to be and do.

Be fruitful and multiply and govern the earth.
Then God blessed them and said, “Be fruitful and multiply. Fill the earth and govern it. Reign over the fish in the sea, the birds in the sky, and all the animals that scurry along the ground. Genesis 1:28

Praise God!
They are the people I made for myself, and they will sing my praises! Isaiah 43:21 (GNT)

Obey and serve God with all your heart.
Obey the Lord and serve him faithfully with all your heart. Remember the great things he has done for you. 1 Samuel 12:24 (GNT)

Share what you know about God.
In the same way your light must shine before people, so that they will see the good things you do and praise your Father in heaven. Matthew 5:16 (GNT)

Love God with everything you have.
Jesus answered, “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind. Matthew 22-27: (GNT)

To share God's plan of love with everyone
I know. My task is to bring out in the open and make plain what God, who created all this in the first place, has been doing in secret and behind the scenes all along. Through followers of Jesus like yourselves gathered in churches, this extraordinary plan of God is becoming known and talked about even among the angels! Ephesians 3:9-10 (MSG)

There are more but these are a good start. You see, bobcats are born knowing who they are and what they are supposed to do. We were created to be close to God, to worship and serve him. When we don't, we become restless and start filling our lives with other things trying to fill that yearning in our souls. It doesn't work. Maybe it’s time to get back to basics and learn to be what we were created to be – in a relationship with God.

A Minute In It - It's Hot In There

A little time in the Word every day changes you. Take a few minutes, put yourself in the story and ask yourself a few questions.

King Nebuchadnezzar made a huge golden statue of himself and ordered all the people to bow down to it and worship it. He said whoever didn't bow down the statue would be thrown in the fiery furnace. Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego refused and the threatened them with their lives. (Daniel 3:1-15 NLT) Here is the rest of the story......

Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego replied, “O Nebuchadnezzar, we do not need to defend ourselves before you. If we are thrown into the blazing furnace, the God whom we serve is able to save us. He will rescue us from your power, Your Majesty. But even if he doesn’t, we want to make it clear to you, Your Majesty, that we will never serve your gods or worship the gold statue you have set up.”

Nebuchadnezzar was so furious with Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego that his face became distorted with rage. He commanded that the furnace be heated seven times hotter than usual. Then he ordered some of the strongest men of his army to bind Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego and throw them into the blazing furnace. So they tied them up and threw them into the furnace, fully dressed in their pants, turbans, robes, and other garments. And because the king, in his anger, had demanded such a hot fire in the furnace, the flames killed the soldiers as they threw the three men in. So Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego, securely tied, fell into the roaring flames.

But suddenly, Nebuchadnezzar jumped up in amazement and exclaimed to his advisers, “Didn’t we tie up three men and throw them into the furnace?” “Yes, Your Majesty, we certainly did,” they replied. “Look!” Nebuchadnezzar shouted. “I see four men, unbound, walking around in the fire unharmed! And the fourth looks like a god!”

Then Nebuchadnezzar came as close as he could to the door of the flaming furnace and shouted: “Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego, servants of the Most High God, come out! Come here!”

So Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego stepped out of the fire. Then the high officers, officials, governors, and advisers crowded around them and saw that the fire had not touched them. Not a hair on their heads was singed, and their clothing was not scorched. They didn’t even smell of smoke!

Then Nebuchadnezzar said, “Praise to the God of Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego! He sent his angel to rescue his servants who trusted in him. They defied the king’s command and were willing to die rather than serve or worship any god except their own God. Therefore, I make this decree: If any people, whatever their race or nation or language, speak a word against the God of Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego, they will be torn limb from limb, and their houses will be turned into heaps of rubble. There is no other god who can rescue like this!” Daniel 3:16-29 (NLT)

How would you have felt if you were Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego as the decree was being made? Would you have known immediately that you wouldn't bow down? Would you have weighed your options? After you decided not to bow before the idol, would you have been able to say "King, God can save us but even if he doesn't we will worship him anyway"? What do you think Jesus said to the three men as he walked with them in the flames? And then after you stepped from the fire, how do you think you would feel looking back on how God showed up?